Dear k,
Ive always tried hard to acheive things in my life. I have a bub and husband. I Stay home with bub. Other than them, i havnt acheived much. Stuff always happens to mess things up. Anyway, alot of my friends lives on facebook seem perfect and it makes me wonder y i bother. I never seem to get anywhere in life. I also make an effort to be a good friend but people never really reciprocate. Thanx
Ive always tried hard to acheive things in my life. I have a bub and husband. I Stay home with bub. Other than them, i havnt acheived much. Stuff always happens to mess things up. Anyway, alot of my friends lives on facebook seem perfect and it makes me wonder y i bother. I never seem to get anywhere in life. I also make an effort to be a good friend but people never really reciprocate. Thanx
Dear Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteBeing a stay at home mom is not an easy task. In fact it is more stressful than having a full time job…. The reason being, you have more time to think. It is hard to be home all day and to think about what things are out there that you have not achieved, You’re not alone. Don’t think that for a minute. There are stay at home moms all over the world that feel the exact way that you do. Moms/ wives that feel as if they have done nothing with their life short of starting a family. I personally know friends who have felt this way. You may already be doing this, but try and keep busy. I don’t know how old your child is so its hard to give you exact examples of what to do but I am sure you can figure it out. I would suggest looking in to online college classes. If money is the issue, you can always apply for grants or aides. Even if you just take one class at a time, it is working towards a goal… an achievement. Also, hobbies are a great thing because then you have something to show for it. A goal you have worked towards and completed. I know it may not seem like the same sorts or achievement that your friends on facebook have. Say a mansion and 8 cars or whatever the case may be, but whatever you are doing, you are doing for you and your family. You’re not doing it for facebook. Also, as far as the helping and being kind to friends and they do not show it back, that’s just part of life. If you are a good person who is kind and caring, you are always going to feel as if no one shows it back. Just continue to do it, because it just shows that you care about everyone whether they are rude or kind back, it shows that you are a good person and someone who doesn’t care if you don’t get the friendship back, you are giving it a shot and that’s more than most people can say. Oh and another hobby that is pretty much cost free and available throughout the world is Geocaching. www.geocaching.com. It uses a GPS to find Caches which are like little treasures. It is a lot of fun I do it with my kids and they just have a blast finding these caches all the time. Also there are tons of Stay at home mom groups all over. I would look for one in your area and see what they have going on. If your mood does not improve or your feeling of why bother turns into anything more intense, I would suggest going to your doctor to be evaluated for possible anxiety or depression. Its very common and does not make you any less of a person or mother.
*k*