Dear K,*******
I need a little advice. I am 17, and I will be 18 next month. My boyfriend and I have been together about 3 months. We are not sexually active and we are taking things slow since he's my first boyfriend and I'm his first girlfriend. But my question is sometimes you get caught up in the moment type stuff and things can happen. I'm not on birth control because I've never been sexually active, but I kinda want to start just for safety precautions. But my parents are super strict and would automatically assume I was having sex. Any advice? I'm a good daughter and student and have never given my parents a reason not to trust me. I have a 4.3 gpa and my boyfriend has a 4.8 gpa, he is smart and super respectful. He would never make me do anything I don't want to do, but I want to be prepared. It's not like I will have sex as soon as I'm on birth control, I just want it in case we do decide to.
Thanks in advance! (:
Dear amazing young lady,
From what you say, you're very smart. Not only GPA wise but relationship wise and I am sure you already know to wait until you're ready. There are free clinics in almost every town around that will give you birth control without your parents having to be there or even know about it. I wish I had known when I was your age.... I had my daughter at 17.... I've learned though. You're also smart for planning in advance. O suggest checking out a clinic. Your boyfriend does not even have to know about it and get started. It takes at least a month for birth control to kick in. So start soon. Then when the time is right for both of you, whether it be months or years.... You will be prepared. I appaud you for being smart and learning in advance. I know its hard to keep things from your parents but you're a young lady now, and these types of things are your decision and you are going about it the right way. I hope that helps! *K*
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Thank you so much for the advice, I will take it into consideration. Also, should I talk to my boyfriend about this decision I want to take, and also when should I talk to him about having condoms, just in case? Or should I not?********
It is your decision. If you want to keep it private, keep it private, but at some point, yes, you will have to talk to him about sex. If you want him to goto the clinic with you for support, I would talk to him now about it. Let him know that as of right now, you are not ready but you want to do the smart thing and get prepared for when the time is right. If you start with that then he will know that you are not doing it just so you two can start being intimate, you are doing it to protect both of you. It is not an easy conversation to have but it is a very smart one. I suggest that if you do go and get birth control then at the same time you should get some condoms. I think the family planning clinics just give them away too so that you (or him) doesn't have to be embarassed in the check out line of walgreens. So, its up to you if you want to include him in on it right now or if you want to wait a little bit. But sooner or later you will have to have the talk. Just make sure you are ready and comfortable to have it before you do. :) *K*
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